Healing our Internal Masculine and Feminine Energies


Regardless of our gender, we are all made of masculine and feminine energies. We can see this in nature as well. Masculine and feminine go in pair, they nourish each other. This is part of the duality that makes everything in our world.

Over the years, the feminine has been disrespected, dishonored and dominated by the wounded masculine and the patriarchy. The world has gotten out of the natural balance.

Looking at the energies within us and trying to balance them by reintegrating and embodying more of the feminine energy is the key to much healthier relationships and a more balanced & better world!

Both masculine and feminine energies have an unhealthy, wounded aspect and a healthy, divine aspect. The wounded part comes from ego, a place of fear and darkness and always leads to pain.

When we shine light on these aspects of ourselves, when we become aware of what is unhealthy/wounded, we can heal and transform this into healthy and divine energy.

When we become aware of our unhealthy patterns, of our wounded self, we can stop recreating the same patterns, stop projecting them out onto others and heal our relationships.

The unhealthy masculine feeds the unhealthy feminine and vice versa and we encounter this in our relationships as well. Which usually creates co-dependency and never ends well.

But when we are aware of this, the unhealthy masculine & feminine can heal and become healthy again. The healthy masculine and the healthy feminine grow together and become united as one. When the two are healthy, we are healed from the inside out. These energies become divine.

It is up to us to step into the divine masculine and feminine.

The shift is happening, the feminine is rising, our world is craving for more balance. We all have the power to step into the highest expressions of ourselves to create change.

Below are the characteristics of healthy/divine masculine and feminine and unhealthy/wounded masculine and feminine. What we can all do, is see where we recognize ourselves in the wounded lists. We all have some wounds that lead to unhealthy behaviors in our masculine energy as well as feminine energy regardless of our gender.

This is a good indicator for us as to where we still have some healing to do and where we can step into our divine energies and embody them.

Remember that both energies go together so if you cultivate your healthy feminine, it will help grow your healthy masculine and vice versa.

This is a great tool of self-discovery and can be very valuable in our relationships. Once we are whole and complete in our masculine and feminine energy (when they are both healthy within us), we can create and nourish beautiful, healthy and successful relationships and this is then mirrored in our world. That’s how we create change. By starting with ourselves.

The healthy/divine feminine:

  • She is grounded, receptive, reflective

  • She has strong boundaries

  • She is gracious in her strength

  • She is loving, empathetic, compassionate and supportive

  • She knows how to ask for what she needs

  • She is vulnerable

  • She is authentic

  • She is not afraid to speak her heart and does so with no shame

  • She flows through life effortlessly

  • She knows how to surrender, be open and trusting

  • She is naturally intuitive and listens to her heart rather than her mind

  • She manifests and creates

  • She is confident in her body and with her femininity.

  • She exudes beautiful, sensual energy and attracts naturally,


The healthy/divine masculine:

  • He is deeply present and listens without being distracted

  • He doesn't judge

  • He creates a safe environment

  • He doesn't take things personally

  • He is a guiding force, supportive and encouraging

  • He has discipline and knows when to be focused

  • He is a man of his word, honest and accountable

  • He is humble

  • Has integrity

  • He is of service and does what is in the highest good

  • He is grounded


The unhealthy/wounded feminine:

  • She is usually insecure and looks for external validation

  • She can be critical and her loved ones feel like they can never do anything right, because she always has something to criticize

  • She is needy in her relationships, she needs to feel loved and asks (begs) for it

  • She can't control her emotions

  • She tends to be manipulative

  • She is afraid of loss and is very attached (in an unhealthy, excessive way)

  • She over connects and over shares her emotions and needs

  • She is desperate for love and always chasing it

  • She feels like a victim

  • She sacrifices herself; she prioritizes others at her expense

  • She can come across as inauthentic

  • She has an unhealthy internal masculine: no boundaries or self control


The unhealthy/wounded masculine:

  • He is competitive and always wants to win

  • He is focused on goals and attached to success

  • He tends to avoid connection and can be cold and distant

  • He takes everything personally

  • He needs to be right

  • He fears failure

  • He defends himself, attacks, accuses

  • He sometimes runs away from love, withdraws, creates separation

  • He can be aggressive

  • He is critical and judgmental

  • He is narcissistic and selfish

  • He can't really, deeply listen to others

  • He is stuck in the mind

  • He isn't in touch with his emotions

  • He can have addictions to work, drugs, tv etc.

  • He has unhealthy internal feminine who is serious, rigid and controlling

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